Why is it Important to be Abstinent? Benefits of Abstinence

1. Clear conscience with God.

2. Peace of mind in your life and future relationships, and marriage.

3. More self-respect and more respect for each other and respected by other people.

4. Always remember, in a healthy relationship, respect precedes love. And premarital sex only throws away your self respect and your partner’s.

5. You enter marriage with a more positive outlook and without carrying emotional baggage.

6. Personal freedom for both of you and your (future) marriage partner.

7. Significantly better chance in having more satisfying and more stable marriage.

8. Longer lasting relationship. Premarital sex surprisingly breaks up more dating couples than any other factor.

9. No comparing or being compared sexually in marriage. It also means “being free to enjoy maximum sex, maximum leisure, maximum satisfaction, and maximum liberty, in the way God intended” that is in the covenant of marriage.

10. No worries about pregnancy and STDs.

11. Less worries about bad reputation.

12. It’s a fact that persons and couples who have premarital sex are more likely to have extramarital affairs as well.

13. Premarital sex often fools a person into marrying someone who really isn’t right for them.

14. You don’t have to put yourself under someone else’s mercy not to reject you. It’s still a fact, that the more “experienced” guys and girls are generally less desirable and less respected as dating or marriage partners.

15. Realize there is a 98 percent chance you will never marry the person you date in high school, so it is always better to keep yourself pure for the right person, that is your future wife or husband.

While I generally agree with all the above statements, I feel compelled to provide appropriate disclaimers. Bear with me on this: the following are not as bad as this header makes things sound...

1. Clear conscience with God.

2. Peace of mind in your life and future relationships, and marriage.

3. More self-respect and more respect for each other and respected by other people.

4. Always remember, in a healthy relationship, respect precedes love. And premarital sex only throws away your self respect and your partner’s.

5. You enter marriage with a more positive outlook and without carrying emotional baggage.

6. Personal freedom for both of you and your (future) marriage partner.

7. Significantly better chance in having more satisfying and more stable marriage.

8. Longer lasting relationship. Premarital sex surprisingly breaks up more dating couples than any other factor.

9. No comparing or being compared sexually in marriage. It also means “being free to enjoy maximum sex, maximum leisure, maximum satisfaction, and maximum liberty, in the way God intended” that is in the covenant of marriage.

10. No worries about pregnancy and STDs.

11. Less worries about bad reputation.

12. It’s a fact that persons and couples who have premarital sex are more likely to have extramarital affairs as well.

13. Premarital sex often fools a person into marrying someone who really isn’t right for them.

14. You don’t have to put yourself under someone else’s mercy not to reject you. It’s still a fact, that the more “experienced” guys and girls are generally less desirable and less respected as dating or marriage partners.

15. Realize there is a 98 percent chance you will never marry the person you date in high school, so it is always better to keep yourself pure for the right person, that is your future wife or husband.

1. On that one topic, yes. But that will seldom be your only or even main issue before Him.

2. It'll help with peace of mind, but not so much if there are other ways someone finds to tear your mind to pieces.

3. I agree with the first two. Can't say it's helped me with the last one.

4. True. But there are other things that can rob you of respect for them, such as them suddenly betraying your trust or being overly critical of you.

5. That depends on external circumstances (e.g., career,) and if you preserve your body for marriage but are still exploited by others in other ways enough times, or are otherwise mistreated by the opposite sex often enough; then you will have emotional baggage no matter what. Verbal abuse and abandonment by those you once thought close friends can be just as psychologically damaging as sex gone bad.

6. "Freedom" is a matter of both parties assuming a set of rules of fair play on rules of engagement regarding getting together and about parting ways. If the one who parts ways with you isn't so much of a fair player, they may just convince someone in a high place of something untrue about you. Suddenly, "freedom" is subjective.

7. Avoiding becoming too emotionally attached to basket cases can help just as much. I never used to know there were so many extremists in the world.

8. True. Next time I'm able to take a woman out to the theater and not find out a day later that she's secretly a closet Albanian-hating Rodnoverian priestess; I intend to test this theory. I also intend to avoid testing this on aggressive single mothers who suddenly hate you if you can't help them with a chemistry paper.

9. Some truth. Yet, never underestimate the power of anyone to find ways to compare someone to someone else. There's always something to compare, it just doesn't have to be sex.

10. Unless, of course, you're attacked in a nightclub by a dying nihilist with a syringe. Or, find that your local gas station's pump handles have been tampered with. (Which did happen in the news!) Thankfully, that's never happened to anyone I know.

11. My peers think I have a body structure that loosely resembles that of Shrek. Therefore, me = Shrek. With that logic, you're a rejected ogre before sex even comes into play. How does reputation even factor for someone in that situation?

12. My motto is: "Always an opportunist; yet never a thief." I refrain from sex, but not from prospecting, if the would-be prospect is in fact available. Then again, this motto is not followed by everyone.

Adulterers suffer from a severe logic problem: That which can be so easily stolen by you; will oftentimes be just as easily stolen from you." Karma is cruel.

13. I can think of a few friends of mine that are prime examples of this in action.

14. Poppycock. I get rejected over the minutest flaws all the time. From a sexuality class:

The attractiveness of experience works on a scale:

No past partners = Adoration, especially by those who would want to change the status quo. Yet, despised by some as an anomaly from their comprehension of normal. Those who hate Mary-Sues will not adore you.

1 partner = Pheromones will make you more attractive, and potential others are generally willing to overlook your past.

2 partners = Pheromones will make you very attractive, but potential others will be less willing to overlook your history.

3 partners = You will be attractive, but potential others will grow suspicious of your motives.

4 partners = Potential others will think you're sizzling on the outside, but will be unable to trust you.

5 partners = Overdose of wrong kinds of pheromone output will make you nauseating to others; major trust issues will develop and fears and suspicions about you will cloud the judgment of potential others.

6 or more = Nobody will trust you. Unless you're James Bond, any further conquests will just make you more hated.

15. No contest on this. Chances are, you'll be dumped over the fact that you have a particular dimple on your cheek and a hobby they don't understand; long before talk of things like marriage even factor.