Sexual Urges!!!

Still so many topics worth writing about, and so many inspiration stories worth posting on the site! But lets first get to a post we had on the Forum asking, ‘u know sometimes, I feel like having sex. what do I do when those thoughts and urges come?’

Its an awesome question… something I think everyone remaining virgin till marriage has to deal with! Something they probably get asked all the time too!!

Firstly I would like to invite you to comment.. how do you manage, how do you push the thoughts, ‘of actually going through with having sex with someone’ out of your mind. How do you stay strong?!

So here is a mini list of methods…

1. Firstly you need to realise that this is perfectly normal, and we all experience this…
2. As our last post explains, sexual urges all start in the Brain, or thoughts about it! Try to remove the thoughts from your mind. Think about something else, distract yourself!
3. Remove the cause’s of these thoughts. It could be something on TV, or someone talking a bit provocatively on the radio.
4. Are you with someone?! This could be the hardest. We all battle when two people are together. Set boundaries. Boundaries with the other person, and your own person boundaries. You’ve made a choice (against sex before marriage) so that should automatically setup some kind of boundaries in your head! Remember anything with the word Sex in it, is Sex!

I definitely want to see this list grow, I would like to fill it with methods that work for different people. So please leave a comment on this post!!!

weeelllllll i know this is probobly going to sound rather retarded lol... but i was somewhat inspired by chastity belts to consider actually getting a lock & wearing it on my belt as a reminder if things got too far... u kno, just a lil something to bring me back from the edge & make me think about my commitment to myself & my future husband first
also, i love fighting, so an easy boundary for me to set for myself was "no going below the belt" lol. none of this has been tested in battle yet though sorry although im sure the no goin below the belt rule is probly a common one

You'll have to have your mind resolutely made up before "going into battle", because your body will win over your mind. If you allow him to pass your limits, it will be much easier for him to get to where he really wants to go. He will have "broken" you. Women used to be able to slap a man across the face when he started going too far, and this was socially accepted. It had the effect of sobering him up and breaking the heat of the moment. It would also shame him because it meant that she thought he was going to force her. These days you never know how a guy is going to react to a face slap he deserves. Many women end up giving in and have bad experiences of losing their virginity or giving in.

It is a tough game, especially when the rules are not agreed upon. A woman needs to demand respect. The ultimate respect is marriage in order to "access" her completely. If she gives in beforehand, a guy's natural reaction would be disappointment and disrespect, whether he admits his feelings or not.