Everyone is having sex nowadays.

At school, on TV and everywhere you go people talk about having sex all the time outside of marriage.

At school I would be ridiculed for telling people I want to wait until I am married for sex. I am not a virgin, but I have decided to not have sex anymore until I am married. But I was praised when I said I had sex, I was respected.

I do not know of anyone that say they will wait until they are married, all the people at school who have had sex are considered 'cool' and popular. I haven't told anyone, except my girlfriend that I do not want to have sex until I am married, because I know they would think I was silly.

What has become of society where sex outside of marriage is to be considered the norm, and infact you are considered as strange to wait until you are married?

What is the point of not having sex? Everyones doing it anyway. Why should I wait? Tell me what you think =]

It is extremely rare to see marital sex depicted in the mass media. When it is depicted, at best it is viewed as questionable. The norm is for it to be seen as nothing nearly as good as non-marital sex. This might be what you'd expect in media that scream for your 10 seconds of attention you might give. A 50 year relationship with ups and downs, having sex with more or less frequency, or sometimes not at all, is not something that will catch your attention. That is shunned in the mass media.

As far as a bunch of teenager's attitudes goes about sex, they are pretty clueless. I know you are one too, but I'll leave you to your own self-analysis, and indeed, self-criticism.

How do you deal with a lot of clueless teenagers, while being one yourself? It is not easy. First of all, one must realise that most of them haven't had sex yet and are just posturing, acting cool. They will end up doing many things they really would rather not do, all the while looking out of the corner of their eye to make sure their immature peers are approving of them. Specifically, here are some suggestions (some of which are more feasible than others):
1. Get out of that school.
2. Lie to them. Tell them you have sex all the time, then don't do it.
3. Tell them the truth. But, of course, brace yourself for ostracism. You may attract other honest people and you will have a small group of solid friends rather than vice-versa. This is a very daring suggestion to try.
4. Poke around the Internet to see if anyone else has every felt like you (they have), and stick together in support of one another. This is a good idea since you are mostly anonymous.
5. Read the links I posted in my last message:
http://www.boundless.org/1999/features/a0000028.html
http://www.forgottenvirtue.com/

6. Just go ahead and have sex and then you don't have to worry about any of the above.